Playroom Organizing – part 2
Do the Kids Help or Not?
When it comes to sorting and organizing – Getting through the toys and being able to discard them (donate or trash) are your kids going to be a help or a hinder?
You need to decide if you want your children to help sort and organize or not. There are pros and cons to both methods. You know your children best and know what will work for them.
*Teaches them the importance of organizing at an early age
*Teaches them others are not as fortunate.
*Teaches them that cleaning up and clearing out can feel good
*Tantrums over giving things up
*Not as productive – it will take longer to have the kids help you. So if on a limited time frame it could be a problem
*Giving in and keeping more than you should because your child decides they want to keep everything
My Thoughts on the Subject
Some children will not handle giving up their toys easily. They can sway you to keeping everything and accomplishing nothing. But….they also need to LEARN that they do have to give up things and it will help them later in life. So it is a balance. My suggestion for these kids is for you to do the bulk of the sorting before they get home. They do not necessarily need to see what you are donating or getting rid of. But I would leave several things that are broken or they have out grown and then sit down with them when they get home and have them help you sort those things. Teach them that they need to share with other children who have less. Teach them they
What worked for me
For my 4 older boys (now ages 17-26) I did all the toy sorting myself (without their help). I get a bit driven when I am in my “organizing mode” and personally I just like to go go go…so I prefer to organize by myself at home. I can honest say that there was never a time that my boys missed something or were upset when they got home. They were always happy to see things neat and in order. I think it was that same “relief” feeling we get when we walk into a space that has once been too cluttered and now is neat and organized. They didn’t have problems with giving up their toys and liked that most of the things were donated to other kids.
Now with my 4 step kids (ages 9 – triplets and a 16 year old) I have had them help me. I don’t know why the difference. But they are very good at helping and do not have problems with giving things away. They crack me up because they tell me their mom doesn’t want to get rid of any of their things at her house and they are the ones that want to get rid of some of the clutter over there. (they are learning!)
Which way works best for you and your children?