What is it with Teenagers and the need to have a messy Room?
I decided to go take my camera and take a completely candid picture (I just opened the door and shot the pictures…I didn’t move a thing – oh believe me….it was difficult for me to do!) of all 5 kids bedrooms.
I have to admit – I used to go spastic on my 4 boys growing up with their rooms. I would come in the morning to either wake them up or say good morning…I would open that door and instantly get mad. Who likes to be woken up with “This room is a mess! You need to pick up your clothes, put trash in the trash can and clean off that dresser!!”. Nope….not a nice way to start their day and would instantly put me in a bad mood.
So….once I was a single mom of 4 boys (in 1999) I decided at some point to let it go. I had to discipline them in so many other ways…they had chores to do around the house and their rooms were just a constant source of irritation to me (and them). I had a friend tell me that I need to pick my battles. That hit home. I decided that I didn’t need to make their room MY battle. So for the most part I try to avoid the teens bedrooms. I will let it go a week (maybe even 2 sometimes) before I get on them and really make them clean it. I don’t insist that their beds be made every day (although they know that I want them to do that), and I don’t hang them by their toes if they don’t put their dirty clothes in their dirty clothes hamper …right in their room).
Today I will show you the “Messy” Teen rooms….and over the next few days we are going to talk about teen bedrooms. (I’d love your pictures of your candid teen bedrooms!!)
The oldest we have living at home (17 years old boy) Note how the futon is down. He sleeps there. We were lucky enough last year to get a Bedroom Makeover From Walmart & Your Zone. (you can see what the room should look like in the video) At the time he picked the loft bed. I thought he would get real tired of climbing up there because if he really had his way, he would sleep on the floor over the heater/air conditioning vent. (Yes…really) But he thought the bed was cool. I told him that if he got the loft bed…he had to sleep in it. The futon that we had and moved in here was to sit on. ”Mom..I will sleep in the bed…it is cool. I promise!!”. LOL ….yeah..sure.
Example #2. My step son is 16. He chose to have his bedroom in the basement when we got the room make over. They used to share a room. We gave the older of the two – first pick. Did he want the basement room (unfinished basement) or the room makeover. He said he was fine with either and let his step brother pick. ”D” (step brother) picked the basement. He loves his “man cave”. I’ll do a post this week on how we made this room over. But…note here – no pillow cases on the pillows! Ewww….! why? That just seems so yucky to me. I have a whole basket of pillow cases that he could pick from if for some reason when his sheets got washed….he couldn’t find his pillow cases. Bed is not made (its hard to tell in this shot)…here, I’ll give you another look from a different angle. You can see the unmade bed…and the stuff all over his dresser in this shot. But over all the room is not too bad. Keep in mind this is after his Dad told him to clean his room yesterday.
I also got pictures of the triplets rooms. They aren’t teens, they are 9 1/2 years old, but I thought I’d show you anyway.
The boys A&Z share a room. It’s not too bad. But we do try to stay on them more to keep it clean. A is great about cleaning his portion of the room (most days). Z really could care less. You frequently hear A saying, “Z your stuff is a mess in here. You need to clean it up.” LOL So if A wasn’t in the room with him and if we didn’t have them pick up their room daily…I’m sure Z will certainly turn into the typical “messy room” teen. I’m not so sure with A. I think he will keep his room clean on his own….like his sister.
Now…my step daughters “E” room almost always looks clean. She gets up and makes her bed (as does A – but Z rarely does) every morning. She keeps things picked up. Don’t you love the fish pillow? Her pick when we went shopping at Cabelas last year!
So – I have “bared all” in my kid’s bedrooms to you. See..I always say my house is far from perfect…I’m human just like you guys!! But I want you to show me some of your teens rooms. Tell me what the hardest thing for you is?
Do you “stay on them” like I used to do with my kids? Or do you just “chill” and try not to get worked up over their rooms? (at least for 1-2 weeks..I just can’t take more than that). Do you ever make the really clean them?