Teaching Kids Responsibility with Chores
Giving Your Children Jobs Around The House
I strongly feel that kids need to take part in the family chores. I think our job as parents is to raise them to be independent adults. If they constantly have everything done for them, once they are on their own… they flounder around like fish out of water. They want someone else to do it for them. I’ve seen it time and time again.
A Few Points to Keep In Mind
1) Kids like routine
2) Kids need guidelines
3) Kids like to feel grown up
4) Kids like to help
Use these points in a positive Way
Routine and guidelines - Have a schedule for chores. Make a job board. This is one that I used to use for years. I have since revamped it, but this is a very simple one I like to show people. It doesn’t have to be fancy. The first name magnets I made, I let the kids color their own. They loved that. But you could also go the other route and make printables on your computer and make them look vintage or something that matches the kitchen or decor.
I started this when the triplets were three years old. They couldn’t read, so I drew the pictures. Even though some of the chores like vacuuming might have been more than a three year old could accomplish the way I might want the job done… it gave them a sense of pride to help. Of course I helped, and now at ten years old they know how to do it properly.
For me… I go simple.
I use a magnetic dry erase board that I purchased at a discount store.
You can put the magnets directly on your refrigerator – maybe you don’t have the wall space to hang a chore board, or you don’t want one hanging, or you don’t want to purchase one – you don’t have to!
I put the children’s names across the top and the jobs they are assigned that week, underneath their names. Depending on age and ability will determine how many chores and of what level they are per child. During the school year my children get two chores per week. (Keeping their rooms clean, beds made and laundry put away are routine chores. They are not on the chore board) During the summer when they are all home, they have three per week.
Making The Chore Board
Purchased a box of these magnetized stickers for business cards at the office store. They are a little pricey, but I still have plenty left and they are the perfect size and the magnets on them are really strong. The sheets of magnet stickers isn’t inexpensive either, and I have found that you have to cut it and the magnet isn’t’ as strong.
Either cut paper to size or the backs of old business cards. I like to write the chore (and picture of the chore) on the card before I adhere it to the magnet. Then just peel off the backing of the sticker.
And place your paper onto the sticker. There you have it.. Easy Peazy!
Cleaning Buckets – Feeling Grown Up and Making it Fun To Help
By giving them their own “cleaning bucket” it helps to make them feel more important. The younger ones can have something like this with just some cleaning wipes, a sponge and dust cloth.
If you color code your kids, then be sure to have their bucket in “their color” to keep them straight.
When they get to be a little older and can handle cleaning chemicals responsibility they can have something more like this.
Keep it fun and colorful! The more positive we go into it, the more positive results you will get from the children.
It doesn’t have to be difficult or pulling teeth in order to have children learn responsibility. But I think as adults we have the responsibility to teach our children how to live in the real world… and that starts at home. Personally I think it needs to start early. We aren’t helping our children by doing everything for them. We help them by teaching them how to do things for themselves.